I sat hear and tried to get my thoughts out about singleness, and the the joy in it. But when I started writing it was pretty much chaos. Then I read this devotional Leslie Ludy wrote last year...and she pretty much said everything I wanted to say. Fellow singles out there, if you're not ready for marriage, it's okay! Our times as single-people can be the best in our lives, and so many opportunities can arise, so be joyful in all things. God has you where He wants you...and if you're stuck in the friend-zone and ready to be out, then watch this video. (Okay, watch it even if you don't want to leave the 'friend-zone'') Happy singleness, my friends!
Rather than listening to advice and messages that breed discontentment with singleness, the best way to shed the “stigma” of being single is to joyfully and willingly receive it as the gift and opportunity that it is. When we are fully yielded to God, we can trust that He is able to script a love story anytime He sees fit.
Rather than being preoccupied with solving the dilemma of our singleness, God’s Word says that we should be consumed with loving, knowing, serving, and worshiping Jesus Christ It may sound impossible to become excited and fulfilled in your singleness, but I guarantee that if you submit your mind, will, emotions, and desires to Christ, He will supernaturally enable you with the joy and peace you need in order to walk this narrow road.
My amazing sister-in-law, Krissy, lived out her single years one day at a time. When her brother Mark asked her once if she was called to singleness, her response was, “Today I am.” She did not worry about the next ten years; she trusted God for the grace to live joyfully and contentedly for that day alone, knowing that she would have everything she needed.
I have encountered many radiant single young women who are completely unconcerned with the disapproval and opinions of others. They do not get ruffled by the “singles support groups” all around them. They aren’t shaken by the subtle pressure of friends and family members to hurry up and find a guy. Why? Because they understand that their bodies are living sacrifices to the King of all kings. They have become the bond-slaves of Christ. They are not worried what other people think – their eyes are seeking only the applause of heaven. And, like Christ, they approach every circumstance in life with the knowledge that their heavenly Father is handling the situation. Their role is not to manipulate or control, but rather to merely yield themselves fully to Him. And they have found great joy in this abandoned life – so much so that they truly embrace singleness as a gift, rather than resenting it as a stigma.
I am not talking about an arrogant feministic “I don’t need a man in my life” kind of attitude. And I am not talking about losing all desire for marriage and family. I’m simply talking about a joyful yielding to Jesus Christ, trusting in His perfect timing, and building your life and focus around Him rather than the pursuit of marriage.